How to Deal with Envy by Concentrating Your Thoughts
If you’ve been wrestling with jealousy in your relationship, I know how difficult it can be to fight with the green-eyed monster.
Your imagination starts to paint all kinds of images in your mind’s eye and you find your thoughts filled with what-if scenarios. This is enough to sent a jolt of panic through you or send you curving off into a flight of fury.
But you have to realize that envy is 100% completely in your brain. Jealousy can destroy a relationship, but it doesn’t have to if you can get your thoughts in order.
Your thoughts are your own and you can control your thinking with a couple of the love advice tips, I am going to talk about here.
Any time you are feeling an emotion like jealousy or anything similar that you may not like like sadness, hate, or anything else, you’ve got to understand that these feelings are coming from you. People aren’t accountable for how you’re feeling. Sure, they are responsible for their own actions, there’s no questions about that. But how you view and respond to their actions is totally on you.
You can control your feelings by controlling what you focus your mind on. All bad emotions (yes, every one of them) come from focusing your thinking on what you don’t want. This includes envy.
When you feel good, you are focusing on what you do want.
So the question then is, how can we concentrate on what we want?
We do this through the questions we ask ourselves. If you ask a question like “What is she doing while she is out to lunch with that ‘guy friend ‘ of hers?” you may ultimately get thinking about your wife or girl getting romanced by this new pal of hers. This will start the ball rolling for the gremlins of jealousy to take over your thoughts.
On the other hand, if you start asking questions like “If she’s out with a friend right now, what can I do with my spare time to enjoy myself?” you may immediately start to find things which will make you feel good.
The point isn’t to turn a blind eye on a difficulty. The point is to let go of trying to control things that are outside of your control. If your girlfriend is out to lunch with a friend, no kind of thinking is going to change what occurs, so why worry about it?
If you’d like to learn more about how to deal with jealousy in a relationship check out my blog about relationship problems.
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